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• Is it safe to be an out lesbian in the city? I'm a southamerican who grew up in Canada. I specifically would like to know if I parents would have a problem with a queer teacher or would it be best to pretend to be straight while on a year teaching contract. I just want to know if I'd be putting mysel in any danger being an out lesbian.

  05 Feb 2009, 02:38 V.E.C

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• hello there

  Well i am new in here too, but i am coming from lebanon, so somehow its more open than here, but still its not that acceptable. i would advise you not to, though its hard to hide it, but its better to be safe than sorry. Honestly, ive been even trying to get to know some lesbian, just to feel myself around, and still that is hard

  G 28 Feb 2009, 09:49 - Report

• hey all

  hey all um ner here too and um also from lebanon,and really its hard to hide that ur a les but u can do nothing coz the soceity wan't accept us,so if there's any les wanna be freind um here

  s 16 Mar 2009, 12:07 - Report

• view from local

  Hi ,
  I am a local and spent best of my 5 yrs studing abroad however Its save to be lesbian but not sure how its like to be out one so better keep it just normal lesbo ..believe me its working just fine.
  mm

  local 24 Mar 2009, 11:46 - Report

• making friends

  Hey all,
  thanks for your advice. Pretty muchi see that I will have to keep my sexuality a secret or at least not admit to it in public. Which is fine. however I feel like since I dont have very good gaydar that this might make it difficult to meet and identify other lesbians in Kuwait. Although most of my friends are straight I still find that having a queer group of friends help me find a sense of community. Especially since it is likely that I cannot be out with certain straight coworkers.
  Any advice as to how to meet up? It be great to network and see if I can make some lesbian friends.

  V.E.C 24 Mar 2009, 03:14 - Report

• hair - and blending in.

  I forgot to add:
  I read that it is best to blend in as much as possible on a forum about moving to kuwait. however I have black hair which but it is very short - no longer than 2 inches. It is sorta fauwhawk-ish.
  As a teacher I feel like perhaps it might be best not to stand out until I am settled in Kuwait. I dont know if maybe I should grow it out at little (not sure how much). Any advice? or is it common enough to see women with short hair?

  V.E.C 24 Mar 2009, 03:30 - Report

• Question

  Why do lesbians (who obviously don't LIKE men from a sexual point of view) dress and cut their hair like a stereotypical male?? From the back...you look like men, you dress very unfemenine like - it's almost like you're celebrating manhood by mimicking them (ie the best form of flattery is copying!).

  Curious 02 Apr 2009, 09:45 - Report

• my perspective

  Hello curious, That is a common but great question. There are various ways one could answer if the question were more specific. Addressing the question "why do lesbians dress ... like stereotypical males?" Before answering the question: I am assuming you are speaking of women identifying as (butch or diesel dyke) lesbians dressing in mens clothes NOT transgenered identities. And not all lesbian women dress in mens clothing and have short hair. Ok now in terms of the butch and diesel dyke lesbians It is interesting they are simply portraying a masculine physical appearence. Gender and sex are two different things. Masculine traits are usually defined by a society and imposed on males but being masculine or being male are NOT the same thing. Just as being feminine and being female are not the same. Gender can be broken into actions or appearence. Your question addresses gender to be simply an appearance but women demonstrate masculinity in actions as well. I put gender on a spectrum (I forget this theorest who coined this) so on a line masculinity and feminity sit on the opposite ends of that same gernder line spectrum. A person can sit anywhere on that spectrum for either appearance or actions they have adopted. Keep in mind that appearance and actions do not have to sit on the same spot of the spectrum. I figure that someone dressing a cetain way is what they like (period) a display of masculinity that they are comfortable with and is part of their identity. Again this is only my opinion but I find my perspective changes a little depending on the people I meet. I simply think of gender as seperate from sex. so they look like males because that is one form of masculinity we provide for males. You talk of a stereotypical male I dont know which you mean. there are lots of male stereotypes all having different hypermasculine traits. I dont know that I ansewred your questions but if nothing else I'm suggesting you consider assess terms and various ways of defining them when speaking of sex, gender and sexuality.
  
  Overall there are really attractive masculine women anc really attractive feminine women and various extremes there of.

  V.E.C 03 Apr 2009, 12:27 - Report

• forgot to add

  Maybe also ask why do women dress women-like or lady-like? Things to consider? How we act in like and in various situations to some extent is artiface. When you have a question like the one you asked think to ask the same for the reverse. It is likely that the reason you did not ask the reverse question is because it meets what is expected by dominant culture and ideology. Again something to think about but it is cool that you are wondering. To be honest I dont believe that there is any ONE answer to these sorts of questions. And when there is they are often specific to an individual.

  V.E.C 03 Apr 2009, 12:32 - Report

• Looking for friends......

  Hi being here in kuwait for on and of for a year, and hoping to meet some lesbians who just want to hang out. I am so glad to have come across this forum and hope this is the start to making new friends. Please mail me on [email removed]. South Surra Kuwait.....

  Chanel 27 Apr 2009, 03:28 - Report

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  abba 14 May 2009, 04:35 - Report

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  abba 14 May 2009, 04:39 - Report

• Extent of truth...

  Hi all. I just came across this link and was wondering what is the extent of truth to all these discussions? Don't mean to disrespect but how can one be sure and trust these replies to the extent where one will be bold enough to make a move...A gay friend and i were discussing of how to meet gay/lesbian/bi community yet would be too scared to be out there...ty all

  N 18 May 2009, 04:54 - Report

• You have a point

  you bring up a good point.. i too am thinking I will be afraid to be out in Kuwait especially since both my personal and professional life would might be at risk. I know the laws there are quite different and I guess I have been thinking lately of whether one could trust that people posting on this forum were genuine in all replies. I might be more inclined to exercisee such risks once I've become more familiar with the life in Kuwait and who my safe group are.

  VEC 19 May 2009, 07:05 - Report

• prepared for closeted life

  Personally I do not seek to out in public while living in kuwait but probably to a select few if i could find a safe group. Only time will tell. I have come to terms with the likelihood of me being closeted while living in Kuwait. Sad coming from a country like Canada to feel like your human rights are being taken away but I've told myself that I may have to watch being caught.

  VEC 19 May 2009, 07:10 - Report

• i am lonley can i find a friend for fun and friendship

  dear ladies i read your posts i am 30 years woman i am so pissed off from men yes i am married but i miss having a good friendship relation with another woman we go out together , go to the beach have a private time of FUNxxxxx lets exchange emails then we can talk by phone may be go out to know each other and have coffee somewhere.
  email me on [email removed]

  sara 04 Jun 2009, 01:18 - Report

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  siita 04 Jun 2009, 08:09 - Report

• lesbians

  hi all,am a married woman but i lost every feeling with men i like having a special woman like me to share me my feeling am in kuwait if anyone needs to have a friend ship with me am here,by the way i didnt try it before but i really wanna to do itmy e mail is====
  [email removed]

  adex 05 Jun 2009, 11:39 - Report

• can I come?

  Hi;
  
  Can I came to lisbian gathering and chatt with you? I'm a man
  
  [email removed]

  A. 08 Jun 2009, 11:15 - Report

• Can I Come?

  Can I came to lesbian gathering and chat with you? I'm a man
  
  [email removed]

  A. 08 Jun 2009, 11:16 - Report

• contact me pls

  1am 30 years woman i am so pissed off from men yes i am married but i miss having a good friendship relation with another woman we go out together , go to the beach have a private time of FUN lets exchange emails then we can talk by phone may be go out to know each other and have coffee somewhere.
  living in kuwiat
  
  thanks for your time eamil me back if you are interested
  [email removed]

  sara 11 Jun 2009, 01:09 - Report

• please send email

  1am 30 years woman i am so pissed off from men yes i am married but i miss having a good friendship relation with another woman we go out together , go to the beach have a private time of FUN lets exchange emails then we can talk by phone may be go out to know each other and have coffee somewhere.
  living in kuwiat
  
  thanks for your time eamil me back if you are interested
  [email removed]

  sara 11 Jun 2009, 01:10 - Report

• lonley wife

  1am 30 years woman i am so pissed off from men yes i am married but i miss having a good friendship relation with another woman we go out together , go to the beach have a private time of FUN lets exchange emails then we can talk by phone may be go out to know each other and have coffee somewhere.
  living in kuwiat
  
  thanks for your time eamil me back if you are interested
  [email removed]

  d 11 Jun 2009, 01:12 - Report

• Loney

  hello all am lonely i need a girl in my life.. to share everything to make love for each other as no one has ever did any one interested!?

  Mahaa 12 Jun 2009, 12:59 - Report

• hii ladies

  i realy wana meet other lisb and have a real group of friends
  
  its hard to met lisb in q8 , it will be fun we all could have a friend network or something.
  
  my email • [email removed]

  q81 12 Jun 2009, 05:03 - Report

• hi mahaa

  hi maha am a woman 34years,am maha too,am interested in what u said,try to contact me
  [email removed]

  maha 14 Jun 2009, 07:15 - Report

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  kas 14 Jun 2009, 09:33 - Report

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  surat 14 Jun 2009, 09:42 - Report

• confused

  hey everyone...
  [email removed]
  contact me .. i'm a bit lost with my sexual preference..
  23 yr old arab female....
  been straight all my life but been goin through weird changes,,,wouldnt mind some advices

  noni 16 Jun 2009, 12:33 - Report

• Hello

  can you remove that profile Hanna & some one use my yahoo & # so can u remove that pls

  Hanna 16 Jun 2009, 04:24 - Report

• why lesbo are so sexy for men

  I'm male but i don't know why i feel that the lesbo girls are so sexy, may be another males agree with me.
  may be because they are unreachable?
  or because they will be at least 2 girls??
  
  I don't know but i accept the idea of lesbo girl, although i could not accept idea of gay boy???!!!!

  A.R 16 Jun 2009, 07:33 - Report

• Rethink post

  hrrm this post has completely diverged from its original intent to build a sense of community. I wasn't plnanning on it being a hook up post. i may have to go about a different way of making queer friends in kuwait.

  V.E.C 07 Jul 2009, 11:41 - Report

• HELLO!!!!!

  I too am very much interested in forming a part of the lesby club. Infact how do we make it big? [email removed]. I really need some contacts. I live in London.
  My name is Vleen

  Vleen 15 Jul 2009, 04:28 - Report

• HELLO

  I too am very much interested in forming a part of the lesby club. Infact how do we make it big? [email removed]. I really need some contacts. I live in London.
  My name is Vleen

  VLEEN 15 Jul 2009, 04:30 - Report

• hiiiiii

  I too am very much interested in forming a part of the lesby club. Infact how do we make it big? [email removed]. I really need some contacts. I live in London.
  My name is Vleen

  vleen 15 Jul 2009, 04:32 - Report

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  suresh paswan 31 Jul 2009, 08:52 - Report

• hello

  I just got to kuwait, and I am totally lost on where to go to meet other lesbians. I'm not looking for a gf, just want to meet some friends I can go out with and be myself around. I will be here for a year.

  Leslie 06 Aug 2009, 01:31 - Report